LOVE

I don’t understand love. I know that's because I’ve never been in love. But I can't understand something that'd keep a person in an abusive relationship, or if your simply being hurt by the other person. I’m bringing this up because the friends that recently broke up are on the verge of getting back together. My male friend hurt my female friend far too much, to the point that I’m no longer friends with him. He was abusive in so many ways, yet it took her a year and a half to break up with him. And now she's on the verge of going back to him, because she loves him, and he might commit suicide if she doesn't. I know he won’t kill himself; he's too into himself to even consider it. Besides as a person that was suicidal for two years, I know a suicidal person when I see one, and he's not.

But even if he is, should she give up her happiness for him? Whoever said that being in love meant being happy is totally wrong. I know this is true from countless friends that have experienced it. They all would literally give up everything for another person that more often than not doesn't feel the same way about them. I don't understand this, I’d give up my happiness for my family, but not if they're abusive, because in the end of the day they have to deserve my love. If they treat me like all those people were treated I’d say the hell with them.

I know I said I don’t understand love, and I probably never will, but is love worth it if it’s harming us? I know from some of my own characters that the answer is yes at times, but they always end up either regretting it or work it out. So I guess the moral of that is to change. You can't stay the same and expect to wake up happier, you can't expect the other person to change, and if you want to stay with them you have to change. 

So here's my bit of advice for people not sure whether or not to break up with the person they're with:

1) If they're abusing you then they don’t love you, and tomorrow won’t be a better day. This person might think they love you, but they're delusional, no one abuses someone they truly love. Pack your bags and leave.

2) If you've been together for more than five years and you’re still not sure if you want to spend the rest of your life with them then something is wrong. You don’t have to leave; you just have to live with the fact that it's never going to happen. You’re not going to wake up with all the answers the next morning. Stay or leave it's your choice, but you know it's pointless.

3) If the other person doesn’t love you after a year or two than they never will, and they'll leave you the moment they find something they do love. You can't expect people to change, there might not be anything wrong with either of you, but it's unfair to ask someone to love you when they can't. 

The point of this is to say a simple fact: we all know deep inside whether it's working out or not. Follow your instincts, because they'll lead you in the right direction.